fix: address adversarial review blockers

All §1 consensus blockers and §2 high-risk gaps resolved:

Schema fixes:
- Remove RecipeIngredient join table, use JSONB for ingredients
- Add family_member table for per-voter approval tracking
- Add all ENUMs for status fields (no loose VARCHAR)
- Add CHECK constraints (household_size, rating 1-5, day_of_week)
- Add name_lower for case-insensitive ingredient matching
- Add grocery_item → ingredient FK
- Fix day_of_week to ISO-8601 (1=Monday, 7=Sunday)
- Remove calorie_target (nutrition is non-goal)

Approval flow redesign:
- Email link → confirmation page (GET), not auto-approve
- Actual vote is POST from confirmation page
- Per-voter tokens (single-use, 72h TTL)
- Record which member voted

Auth model:
- VPN-only for admin endpoints
- Session-based for family web UI

Docker hardening:
- Remove direct port exposure for backend/frontend
- nginx is sole entrypoint
- Add docker-compose.dev.yml for local dev

Skeleton fixes:
- Add missing Pantry.tsx page
- Add missing index.html (Vite entrypoint)
- Add package-lock.json
- Fix SQLAlchemy 2 text() for raw SQL
- Remove create_all from startup (use migrations)
- Configure Alembic properly

Docs updates:
- Update Lucky URL to luckysupermarkets.com
- Add WCAG 2.1 AA accessibility target
- Update family profile with correct mushroom preferences
- Add external dependencies list to SPEC

Verification:
- docker compose config: PASS
- docker compose build backend: PASS
- docker compose build frontend: PASS
- backend import: PASS
- alembic context: PASS

backend/alembic.ini

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+[alembic]
+script_location = alembic
+prepend_sys_path = .
+version_path_separator = os
+
+sqlalchemy.url = postgresql://mealplanner:password@localhost:5432/mealplanner
+
+[post_write_hooks]
+
+[loggers]
+keys = root,sqlalchemy,alembic
+
+[handlers]
+keys = console
+
+[formatters]
+keys = generic
+
+[logger_root]
+level = WARN
+handlers = console
+qualname =
+
+[logger_sqlalchemy]
+level = WARN
+handlers =
+qualname = sqlalchemy.engine
+
+[logger_alembic]
+level = INFO
+handlers =
+qualname = alembic
+
+[handler_console]
+class = StreamHandler
+args = (sys.stderr,)
+level = NOTSET
+formatter = generic
+
+[formatter_generic]
+format = %(levelname)-5.5s [%(name)s] %(message)s
+datefmt = %H:%M:%S